‘Love don’t cost a thing’

Maintaining a great relationship isn’t always easy when you are dealing with menopause symptoms. Our experts reveal five zero-cost ways  to improve yours while dealing with the menopause. Menopause can be tough. Not for everyone of course. Some women sail through it pretty swiftly, but for those that don’t, there are many aspects of your life that change once you enter menopause. One of the most affected areas can be relationships, with both romantic partners and friends.


First of all we have to remember what it is. Menopause is the time in your life when you stop producing oestrogen (and you are no longer fertile) and your body and mind go through a massive change. It’s not unusual for there to be as many as 34 symptoms. You can be lucky and not experience any of them, or be less fortunate,  and experience some or all of them. One thing is certain is that it’s NOT easy. You’re coming up to a potentially tricky part of your life, but the good news is that you – and your partner – can navigate it with some smart tactics. What’s more your relationship could end up being stronger for it.

Many women find it hard to cope with mental symptoms related to menopause. Below are five suggestions to help you deal with the changes and improve your wellbeing and relationship with your partner.




If you are experiencing a very difficult menopause don’t refuse your doctor’s help. It is paramount that you talk to your GP about your symptoms and how you feel. Perhaps HRT ( Hormone Replacement Therapy) could be the perfect choice for you. It usually solves many of the menopause symptoms within weeks. So try to be open about it with your doctor. If you can help ease the hormonal rollercoaster your mood and symptoms will improve, and your relationship too. For libido particularly you can also try a good libido supplement.




Talk about it. Every day. Every night. Every spare moment in which you feel menopause is unbearable, overwhelming. Don’t try and keep everything bottled up, as this will just increase your frustration. Your partner will not understand why and home life will become a circle of miscommunication, where you get frustrated because he/she doesn’t understand and your partner will be frustrated because they don’t know what’s happening. I know that some days you won’t even feel like speaking, but try. it will be a game changer.




Intimacy can be the last thought on your mind when experiencing menopause for many reasons. In fact you might feel physically uncomfortable, bloated and conscious of changes to your body, to your shape and weight. Moreover, hot flushes, mood swings, low hormone levels with menopause can lead to vaginal dryness, which does not go together with happy sex. In fact it can also be painful. The latter can be put right with a good lubricant ( you can try Motion Lotion, my water and oil based lubricants). It can be harder to orgasm during menopause. Here is where your creativity can step in. Try something different with your partner. You can try toys, watching something stimulating together. Just anything that can bring your libido back. Even here the keyword is communication. Let your partner know what you’re experiencing. it will make all the difference.



For women this is a difficult one. We are by nature not capable of being 100 percent selfish. Well now is the time to learn. Some days with menopause you will just need rest and silence. Just listen to your own needs! There is nothing that cannot wait for 20 minutes. Take short breaks to relax and understand what is going on with your mind and body. Try to focus on yourself more and your relationship will also benefit.



If nothing seems to work and you are stuck in an unhappy cycle of misunderstanding it may be worth considering counselling. Even if you have always been very harmonised as a couple, consider external help. It is much better to recognise that there is a problem you can’t solve or compromise on. Be true to yourself, it will be worth it!